Anything new happen in your life? Why yes there has been a good amount that has happened to me in the last couple weeks

Where did you go? I have gone nowhere my friends…simply just had no mental capacity nor desire to lose more sleep than I had already been losing

What the hell is a guncle? Simply put…a guncle is a normal uncle but gay.

First I will state that yes I did not post last week so there is no need to feel like you missed out on anything and I sure do hope that you missed me and not hate or wrote me off because I missed a week. I will not apologize as I have stated earlier I would rather care for myself than post here if me, myself and I need to take more time than normal to stay in operating capacity.

I also would not have been able to give anyone my best work in the state that I was in.

The last two weeks have been a lot going on for me. Some good things with work, some journeys with friends have begun and are going well. My move to the Rocky Mountains is coming closer and…if you may have guessed…

I WILL BE AN UNCLE SOON!

And…in my opinion get to claim the even better title…

GUNCLE!

A guncle simply put is the gay uncle…I like to have it similar to that fun aunt that the kiddos all run to when they run away from home, have dating problems, want to party without having their boring parents around etc…being able to get away with things they couldn’t get away with at home.

IN NO WAY am I saying that parents are horrible people that their children want to run away from…just that kids sometimes think their aunts and uncles are more fun…typically because the aunts and uncles are around more for the fun times anyway.

I recently purchased a shirt that I am really proud to have which provides a nice definition of the term guncle.

“Guncle” noun: like an uncle, only cooler see also: fun, good looking

I think it is pretty awesome. and to make it even better the Guncle work is colored with the pride colors. (Yes, pride month begins tomorrow June 1st) I will not make a pride post yet as I feel that will take some time on my part to really think about.

A bit of a story with a little background for you first.

I am the oldest of 4 siblings…I am proud of that yet there are some bitter sweet moments like when two of the younger ones are married before I am and having kids (both are goals I have in life)

I wake up on a Saturday I believe to my sister calling me…which she never does and so I answer it, it is on video call too which is not that big of an issue but as my sister lives in a different state with her husband and my sister has some health issues I definitely did answer pretty quick. I see her, and both my parents on the call as well.

Seeing my parents on the call made me question something was up as they are both in the house that I am in.

I roll over to my stomach so I am not giving my family a full on shirtless moment along with puffy eyes from sleep and bedhead.

They try calling my baby sister on the phone as well…who is in the room next to me and she sleeps like the dead so she did not answer. They gave up and all of a sudden we see a positive pregnancy test!!!

I scream and jump out of bed saying I am waking up my baby sister.

Yes, I put my phone down so the family did not see me jump out of bed in my underwear before I put on shorts.

I got dressed to a decent amount and burst into my little sister’s room to wake her up. The dogs who sleep in there with her both freak out at me a bit and my sister wakes up as I am like screaming her name…she is mad at me.

“Our sister is pregnant!”

Her sleepy eyes get big and her face then is covered in a smile from ear to ear and she screams as well from excitement

We talk with them for a bit now that everyone is on the phone and we just chat really…of course we all want to start messaging everyone we know and posting all over the place the wonderful news.

We are stopped by both my sister and brother-in-law who want to wait until they have a Dr.s visit to confirm everything and they’ll have ultrasound photos to post as well. So we wait as long as we can.

That same day while we are talking with our sister…my brother, his fiancé and her kiddos come over. They hear the news and are so happy for use all! The day could not get any better.

But it did…

After catching up with my brother and the others for a little bit they give each of us a brown bag…I felt like I knew what was happening and was not really believing it…but we all open our bags and we each have a shirt that says…promoted to (grandma, grandpa, uncle, aunt etc. for the appropriate person est. Dec 2022)

MY BROTHER AND SISTER-IN-LAW ARE ALSO EXPECTING

I am grinning from ear to ear and I could quickly see that my sister-in-law felt just a little bit sad…only because she did not want to take away my sister’s thunder.

There was no possible way that she could do that as my sister wanted so very much for her kids to have cousins their own age to grow up with…and quite literally…they will!

Not only are two of my siblings expecting children…their due dates are close as well! I am sort of hoping that they happen to both be born on the same day…I do share a birthday with one of my cousins as well. Not the exact same as we are a few years apart but close enough and we loved spending a moment each year just being happy for the other.

That cousin passed away in 2017 and that is a story for another time.

I was surprised that my brother had not given me a shirt that said guncle instead of uncle. Though I am also not surprised. Yes he knows that I am gay, yes he is fully supportive. He may not have known it was a term, he also may have known that our mother is still not fully okay with my sexuality. This will be a lifelong struggle for my mom.

And to some…adding the fact that I am gay to the title of uncle is just too much. It is, “shoving your sexuality down your throat,” “making even a pregnancy announcement about me.” And to be honest, I know some people see it that way.

I. Do. Not. Care.

If anything this will be able to better distinguish me from my brother as we both now are uncles. I am the guncle, he is the uncle. Just a distinguishing fact. Does not place one above the other, one does not replace the other. Just like the title of Mom and Dad…both are parents, just one is mom the other is dad. Or if you really want to stick to the same sex relationship terms…dad and daddy, or mom and mommy. Some families use those two names to distinguish which parent is being called upon.

To each their own when it really comes down to it.

I am an uncle, I am also a guncle…no shame in either term, so use whichever one you damn well please…to me they are one and the same. I am just happy as hell for both my siblings to be expecting children who I will love, adore, spoil, care for and just down right be happy to see them grow and watch my siblings grow as they parent their own children, my niblings.

Yes it is a real term. It is the gender neutral plural term for nieces and nephews. Just the say we say “my siblings” when referencing our brothers and sisters as a whole…niblings is the term for our nieces and nephews as a whole. End rant.

My brother and his fiancé will be getting married in 2023 and I KNOW I will be getting pictures galore with all my niblings, the ones we will gain from the wedding, and then the two more that will be arriving by the end of this year. I have always been one to enjoy being around babies. Makes it even more fun when I can claim them as mine in some way or another. Related to them, or actually mine (no I do not yet have my own kids though I am sooooo excited for that chance when I get to claim that title of father), or asked to be godfather (also has not happened yet but I know it will).

Do I want kids? Hell yes I do! If I am not ble3ssed with that chance to have any that are biologically mine, then so be it, I will adopt if that is the way it needs to happen. There are always too many children out there that could use a home to be loved and cared for and brought into a family.

Will you have kids alone or will you wait till you get married? Honestly I would prefer to wait until I am married, I know the whole single parenting thing can 100% happen. But that is a hell of a lot harder so to all single parents, YOU ROCK! I would prefer to wait as I want to be able to have someone I love, my partner in crime, my other half…whatever the term. There with me in that journey that we call parenthood.

Will I force my family/friends/others to use the term guncle? Nope! It is a term that I feel is cute and fun more than anything. Uncle get’s the job done in the same way. It is not my sexuality that is being addressed (which is kind of a permanent thing that actually has no synonym…straight and gay…two different things). Guncle is just a cute play on words.